13. They’ve turned into a big spender.
They used to tell you that you should manage your finances well because that is what adults do.
But they’re now breaking all of their rules. You can see them splurging on items they would normally consider excessive, such as a $400 dessert or a $3,000 vinyl (and where is this vinyl anyway?).
When we are in love, especially if we are still in a relationship, everything we have “built” and invested in becomes meaningless. We stop caring about the future because our lives are about to change. Life as we knew it is no longer the same.
This is most likely why they stopped caring about their money.
14. They demand space, as if you are suffocating them.
If you haven’t been fighting recently and you know you’re not a pain in the arse to be around, why do they want to take a break?
Okay, then. It’s definitely fishy, and it stinks to high heaven.
It’s possible that they’re going through a quarter-life or midlife crisis of some kind and want to completely revamp their lives. However, this does not rule out the possibility that their lives will change, including their partners.
If someone cheats and is naturally a good person, they will be torn. They dislike the feeling of being excited about someone while also hurting the person they (used to) love.
They want to be free of this guilt more than anything else. And perhaps they want to break free so they can pursue their desires with reckless abandon.
15. You’re the one who has to do the heavy lifting.
When someone is in a long-term relationship, some people simply become lazy.
Your partner, however, is not in this category.
You can tell when they’re lazy and when they simply don’t care anymore.
You try to be the functional one in the relationship, hoping that they will realize they are being a jerk and apologize to you.
You prepare their favorite meal, watch their favorite show, purchase concert tickets, pick up their laundry, water the plants, and place some “spice” in the bedroom. You try to do all of the cutesy things you used to do so that they remember how great your relationship was.
All for naught.